As we go about our daily life and are confronted with various problems such as; stress, performance anxiety or low self-esteem. We are often caught in circular patterns of negative emotions or feelings such as, anger, frustration or pain. Most of us mistakenly believe that these unpleasant states are the problem. On the contrary, they are symptoms or alerts that tell us something is wrong. They tell us that we have a problem! Our Value system is working. Through systematic and careful investigation it is possible to uncover the reasons and go straight to the root of the problem.
The Vicious Circle
Very often the response of people is to try and get rid of these disagreeable feelings as quickly as possible; take an aspirin, have a massage, go shopping, talk to a friend….Sometimes it works and the uncomfortable period is forgotten….. until it happens again. So once again you look for some way to stop these unpleasant moments…. and the cycle continues. You are feeding into the vicious circle each time you try and treat the symptom.
Various techniques are tested and abandoned, expertise advice sought after with little or no effect until you start to believe that there is nothing to be done and either it is your personal problem for life or that you haven’t found the perfect technique…yet!
You have effectively got rid of these feelings or symptoms but nothing has changed, they come back and may even get worse.
Are these feelings really ‘bad’? Could they be alerting us to something and if so what?
In order to answer these questions you need to accept and take note of these alarm bells and investigate their message and significance. This is what LearningMethods is about.
This process of inquiry is unique in that you are using your own self-knowledge and personal experience. No one elses. You are on the way to discovering the source of the problem.
Once the cause is discovered there is an opportunity to make changes and choices to improve the quality of your life. Furthemore, you can continue to apply the method to other areas of your life. Your life is back in your hands.